So you’re working for a Tyrant…Don’t let it break you!

14 Jun

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I have to begin this post with a question. Why are tyrants always in supervisory/management positions? In my 27 years of life, and 4 years of working full-time (since college), I’ve seen and heard of the worst people being in leadership roles in the workplace. I cannot for the life of me, understand why tyrants are able to get into these roles, and remain there without consequences of their dictatorship behavior! Despite the nature of the job/business there is no reason to make work miserable for your employees.

My first real job after college was being an assistant to a Director of an organization to aid underprivileged students with their academics. I was beyond giddy to have a job with benefits, and in a field I wanted to be part of(working with underprivileged youth). I was quickly brought off my “real-job high,” after discovering that my Director was an insane, bi polar tyrant! I had a gut feeling she was off a little bit during my two interviews, but ignored it because it was 2008 (high gas no jobs), I had little to no experience, and I needed the money bad! From day one she was putting me down about not knowing how to work a program I had never used before. She reminded me every chance she could about how she could’ve hired someone else, but “chose me.” On day two, she gave me an assignment to complete using a program that was fairly new to me. She didn’t provide me any insight as to how to do it! She said it didn’t need to be done until three days later. Two hours in, and I finally figured out how to enter the freaking data! She starts running around saying “I should have finished it in 20 minutes.” I’m in tears, and in sheer panic!

Screaming was how she communicated. She would yell my name when she needed something, and that wasn’t going to work for this chic! I couldn’t make it in that type of environment. My honey looked at my teary face each day that week, and on the third day said that’s enough. So, I quit my amazing job working with underprivileged youth  because I didn’t want to go nuts one day and beat this nut job; or lose my hair due to the stress of going in each day.

Everyone is not able to quit the way I did, and are stuck going to a job they hate every day because they have bills to pay, children to feed, and lives to live. I’ve had to do it for the past two years, so I get it. It’s sickening that one bad apple can cause a place of business to be miserably day in and day out. So many people are at a job right now in an unbearable job scenario and can’t make any moves.

Tyrants are usually the way they are for 3 reasons:

  • They have no control at home in their personal lives, so they come to work and feel powerful there, and make others’ feel as miserable as they are.
  • They’re complete idiots and to make up for it, they put others down, and make each day of work miserable
  • They are completely psychotic! <–This was my crazy boss’s issue!

Fast forward 4 years, and things have turned around for me. Today I have a great supervisor and work in academics (which is my real world dream job).

 For those of you, who feel like you’re losing, don’t let it break you! It’s easy to lose hope, and stop dreaming when you’re in intensely bad situations. But the way to push through is to continue to find time to work toward your dreams. It’s hard, but you must find the time to dedicate to you. This situation won’t last always.

My new motto despite my current situation is to “NEVER get too comfortable.” I’m still working toward my own dreams and ambitions while I work full-time; mainly because while things are good now, they won’t always be. Eventually I’ll want and need higher pay, fulfillment, and the standards that are okay now, won’t be when I’m ready to have kids, and expand my family and life.

Don’t let your situation break you! Press on, and keep working towards your dreams!


8 Responses to “So you’re working for a Tyrant…Don’t let it break you!”

  1. misssrobin June 16, 2012 at 12:16 am #

    Sorry about your miserable experience. I love that last line: “Don’t let your situation break you! Press on, and keep working towards your dreams!” Excellent advice.

    Stopping by from SITS. Have a great weekend.

    • Caramel Rell June 17, 2012 at 3:24 am #

      Miss Robin, Thanks for your comment! I like to show others that I’ve made it through and they can make it as well. I’ll be stopping by your blog also.

  2. Tara Denny June 26, 2012 at 7:55 am #

    Oh my. Try working for the post office. I think being an ***hole is a requirement to get into management. When i was pregnant and having morning sickness, I would run to the restroom to be sick, and when I came out, my supervisor would be there waiting to harass me about leaving my work area without permission.

    Luckily, we have a fairly strong union and there is only so much they can do to us (besides harassment, but if you can shake that off, then you’re all good)

    Thanks for your comment on the SITS forum, I hadn’t seen it until today.

    Nowhere to go But Crazy

    • Caramel Rell July 9, 2012 at 8:34 pm #

      I’m so sorry for your experience Tara. People who take their job titles too seriously irk me! I mean, when we need to use the restroom, do we need to get the bathroom stick and give it back when we return like in grade school? People use their titles to run businesses under dictator rule. Thank God you had a union girl! Stay strong!

  3. Stephanie @ The Sister Source July 6, 2012 at 5:19 pm #

    You are so right that the tyrant is usually very unhappy at home and in life. You were right to leave because that kind of pathology can’t be cured by anything you are supposed to do in the workplace. I pray that you never run into another tyrant, but if you do, you now have the skills to recognize it before its too late!

    • Caramel Rell July 6, 2012 at 6:28 pm #

      I thank God that I was able to leave, and find another job soon after. I just don’t get why tyrants are always in leadership roles. I rely on faith, and now I know I can make it through anything. Thanks for the comment!

  4. Holly J July 8, 2012 at 9:23 pm #

    Yes, I completely agree with you. Tyrants usually have the worst lives outside of work-or at least, they think they do. It doesn’t excuse their behavior, but it explains so much that you almost feel bad for them.

    • Caramel Rell July 9, 2012 at 3:58 pm #

      Thanks Holly. Tyrants put on a completely different persona during their job interviews, and once they’ve clutched the job, they are fueled by the power of their job title.

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