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So you’re working for a Tyrant…Don’t let it break you!

14 Jun

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I have to begin this post with a question. Why are tyrants always in supervisory/management positions? In my 27 years of life, and 4 years of working full-time (since college), I’ve seen and heard of the worst people being in leadership roles in the workplace. I cannot for the life of me, understand why tyrants are able to get into these roles, and remain there without consequences of their dictatorship behavior! Despite the nature of the job/business there is no reason to make work miserable for your employees.

My first real job after college was being an assistant to a Director of an organization to aid underprivileged students with their academics. I was beyond giddy to have a job with benefits, and in a field I wanted to be part of(working with underprivileged youth). I was quickly brought off my “real-job high,” after discovering that my Director was an insane, bi polar tyrant! I had a gut feeling she was off a little bit during my two interviews, but ignored it because it was 2008 (high gas no jobs), I had little to no experience, and I needed the money bad! From day one she was putting me down about not knowing how to work a program I had never used before. She reminded me every chance she could about how she could’ve hired someone else, but “chose me.” On day two, she gave me an assignment to complete using a program that was fairly new to me. She didn’t provide me any insight as to how to do it! She said it didn’t need to be done until three days later. Two hours in, and I finally figured out how to enter the freaking data! She starts running around saying “I should have finished it in 20 minutes.” I’m in tears, and in sheer panic!

Screaming was how she communicated. She would yell my name when she needed something, and that wasn’t going to work for this chic! I couldn’t make it in that type of environment. My honey looked at my teary face each day that week, and on the third day said that’s enough. So, I quit my amazing job working with underprivileged youth  because I didn’t want to go nuts one day and beat this nut job; or lose my hair due to the stress of going in each day.

Everyone is not able to quit the way I did, and are stuck going to a job they hate every day because they have bills to pay, children to feed, and lives to live. I’ve had to do it for the past two years, so I get it. It’s sickening that one bad apple can cause a place of business to be miserably day in and day out. So many people are at a job right now in an unbearable job scenario and can’t make any moves.

Tyrants are usually the way they are for 3 reasons:

  • They have no control at home in their personal lives, so they come to work and feel powerful there, and make others’ feel as miserable as they are.
  • They’re complete idiots and to make up for it, they put others down, and make each day of work miserable
  • They are completely psychotic! <–This was my crazy boss’s issue!

Fast forward 4 years, and things have turned around for me. Today I have a great supervisor and work in academics (which is my real world dream job).

 For those of you, who feel like you’re losing, don’t let it break you! It’s easy to lose hope, and stop dreaming when you’re in intensely bad situations. But the way to push through is to continue to find time to work toward your dreams. It’s hard, but you must find the time to dedicate to you. This situation won’t last always.

My new motto despite my current situation is to “NEVER get too comfortable.” I’m still working toward my own dreams and ambitions while I work full-time; mainly because while things are good now, they won’t always be. Eventually I’ll want and need higher pay, fulfillment, and the standards that are okay now, won’t be when I’m ready to have kids, and expand my family and life.

Don’t let your situation break you! Press on, and keep working towards your dreams!

Making your mark: (Diane)

9 Feb

Courtesy of Diane Scotton

First feature of the month:

Name: Diane Scotton

Your passion, dreams, aspirations

Diane’s passion is to become a well know black female event planner that not only plans, and executes events but has compassion for my customers. 

How long have you been working toward this?

More than three years in the making!

What project, goal, or idea are you working on?

Diane is working on a Seminar titled: Weddings on a Budget, which will be held on March 3, 2012 in Clearwater, FL

What do you hope to accomplish?

She hopes to accomplish the ability to teach brides that they can still have that special day without breaking the bank, and  to do away with the brideszillas!

What do you hope will be your legacy?

Diane hopes to be known as the ‘Planning Diva With Compassion.’

Who is a black figure (past, present, future) that inspires you?

Diane is inspired by both past and present African American Figures:

Madam CJ Walker and First Lady, Michelle Obama

Diane is a history maker in her own right! She is going after a dream, despite the hurdles that may get in her way. Many of us succumb to a certain life, for various reasons (becoming a mom, caring for parents/spouses, financial hardship, etc.) Diane is showing us that you can live out your ideas, hopes and dreams, with patients, resilience, and hard work.

To contact Diane of Deziner Events for event/wedding planning:

Diane Scotton

Special Events/Wedding planner

DeZiner EventZ/The Planning Diva

Largo, FL

dezinereventz@yahoo.com

Keep reading this month to see who will be featured as a black figure making NEW history! You may just know them personally!

I hope these features motivate you to do something challenging in your life. It doesn’t have to be a business venture, but push for something better, aim for change!

Be blessed

xoxo-Rell